How to Navigate Friendships and New ‘Firsts’ Post-Divorce
Divorce itself can prove exceptionally difficult. But when you add into the mix the numerous ways in which it impacts your daily life, it can feel extremely overwhelming. Fortunately, there are things you can do to remain amicable, if not friendly, with your former spouse, and to navigate untested waters.
Talking to New People
It is important to remember that on average, it takes about a year for those outside your inner circle of friends and family to learn that you and your spouse are no longer together. One way of dealing with having to explain your new situation is to have a prepared statement.
The statement does not need to consist of more than a couple of sentences. If you are not comfortable sharing your story, you can simply say that while you are grateful for their concern, you would prefer to discuss another topic. Asking them about themselves should help to switch the direction of the conversation, as most people like to talk about themselves.
Attending Your Child’s Events
When you have children with your former spouse, you will be connected to them for life. This can prove difficult if your relationship is less than amicable. In those situations in which you must be around your former spouse for the sake of your children, such as to attend soccer games, dance recitals, and so on, the best thing to do is to focus your attention on the kids. It may also be helpful to engage in conversation with other parents at the event. This will take your mind off your former spouse and may even help you make new friends.
Attending Parties of Mutual Friends
If you are going to an event where your former spouse will be, it is important to be prepared with what you will say when you speak with them. It is also a good idea to leave if you are uncomfortable or if you feel as if an intense situation will arise between you and your former spouse. If you must leave, be sure to let the host know.
The same thing can be said for attending events with your former spouse’s side of the family. You should be realistic in understanding that the situation is most likely awkward for everyone. Plan ahead for a variety of topics to discuss unrelated to the divorce and your current situation. Avoid saying anything that would put family members in the uncomfortable position of having to take sides between the two of you.
Expanding Your Social Circle
When a couple has been together for a long time, they often share mutual friends. Sadly, each of you may lose some friends if they were closer with the other spouse. However, friends can be made in a variety of places. Try reconnecting with old friends, joining new and different social groups, volunteering, or adopting a pet. Companionship is an important part of the healing process.
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